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Shidduchim: a guide to Jewish matchmaking today

A shidduch is an intentional introduction between two Jewish singles who are dating with the goal of marriage. Shidduchim have always relied on people who know you well — a shadchan, a rebbetzin, a cousin, a friend from seminary or yeshiva. The Shidduch App keeps that spirit and adds reach: more of the right suggestions, still with modesty and mutual consent at the center.

How the shidduch process works

1. A suggestion is made

Traditionally a shadchan (matchmaker), family member, or friend suggests two people who share values, background, and life goals. In the app, suggestions are drawn from members whose hashkafa, city, and stage of life line up with yours.

2. Research and references

Both sides look into the suggestion, speaking with references who can honestly describe character, family, and priorities. Profiles here are written by real members, so you start from their own words rather than hearsay.

3. Both sides say yes

A shidduch only moves forward when both people agree — nobody is put on the spot. That is why matching here is mutual: an introduction opens only after both members have said yes.

4. The first meeting

The first date is intentional and low-pressure, focused on whether you can build a bayis together. Afterwards each side gives an honest answer, and the process continues or ends respectfully.

How the app supports shidduchim

  • Values first. Profiles lead with hashkafa, community, and what someone is looking for in a home — not just photos.
  • Mutual only. Nobody sees that you were interested unless the interest is returned, so saying no stays private and respectful.
  • Yours across devices. Your account, suggestions, and matches follow you on iPhone, Android, and desktop.
  • Room for a shadchan. Members are encouraged to keep the people who know them best involved in the decision.

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